The Online Way of Finding Your Ideal Someone
The world has indeed gone smaller. With commercialism, globalism and the World Wide Web, everything can be had with the click of a computer button. People are living their lives to the fullest, enjoying materials, opportunities and liberated ways of life. We no longer have to abide to stringent traditions that for instance, dictate us to get married in our 20′s and have babies before our 30′s. The younger generation have more voice and control in our daily lives thanks to their presence in the digital and virtual world.
Despite this, many people with old-school beliefs still pressure the younger generation to follow their traditional footsteps. As much as the younger set want to live carefree and single lives for as long as possible for instance, the older generation will incessantly remind them that life only has meaning when you share it with someone and when you have had the chance to procreate.
Caving in to constant pressure, many singles of marriageable age will turn to the Internet to find a possible partner.
Websites like Friendster, Multiply and Facebook make searching for someone one step easier as everyone is somehow related or networked to one another on these sites.
Other forms of media like instant messaging on the web can also help a searcher find a particular someone, however, putting all of one’s egg on a total stranger can be very dangerous.
A general rule in our lives is that with demand, comes supply. Thus, catering to the needs of millions of singles searching for a partner online, many dating sites have sprouted on the web to accommodate their demands.
There are many good dating sites that enable people to find the perfect partner. Through these sites, people can share information and common desires with one another. Finding someone of a particular type, whether physical or emotional, is made easy.
How to Tell When Someone Is Lying
Pants on Fire
Hi Guys. I’ve written about lying before but not in any great detail. Some researchers suggest that the average person lies three times every ten minutes in conversation but for all we know, that could be a lie. I find it a fascinating subject to explore mostly because so few people are honest about their lying and the discussion tends to create an emotional response (can we be honest about our lying?). Everyone has an opinion on it. Ask ten people whether or not they lie and nine will tell you they never do.
Dirty big liars.
A Lie By Another Name
We all lie but typically we rationalise our dishonesty with some pseudo-noble-sounding reason. We give our lies nicer-sounding names to appease our conscience. By the way, I’m not suggesting that we shouldn’t fib on occasion. In fact, I’m all for it. Sometimes, it’s what the situation requires.
“Wow Janine, your (ugly) baby is totally gorgeous. He looks like a lizard an angel.”
“Yes Mikey, of course Santa’s real. It’s your dad that’s a total fraud. “
“Wow, your arse looks monstrous tiny in those jeans.”
“Yes Sally, Goldie is worm food up in Dog Heaven.”
If telling someone the truth will hurt them and lead to a negative outcome, personally, I’m happy to lie. Or, preferably, avoid the issue altogether. Shocking, I know. If me being totally honest will more-than-likely serve a positive purpose (and I believe the recipient can handle it), then I’m happy to smash them with the honesty stick.
A Time To Lie?
How to Make Someone Fall in Love With You
Love is what makes the world go round, that’s what we’ve heard right? Although that might be true, we all know that getting that special person to be in love with us is not the easiest thing to do. But do not be discouraged, because although you may have heard that love is random, uncontrollable, at first sight, or that it just happens, there are other ways to make love happen. As human beings, we all just want to love and be loved. No matter how cold or strong a person may be, at the end of the day nobody wants to be left alone. Every human has the capability to love or be loved. That being said, it is fairly easy to get another human being to fall in love with you in just a few easy love spells because each person is beautiful and lovable in their own way.
The most important step to get somebody to fall in love with you is to first know, love, and accept yourself in every way possible. When you are secure about yourself and when it’s evident that you love and respect yourself then you are set to go. People, in general, can sense when somebody is confident about themselves, and being around such individuals makes others feel more comfortable. You must get to know yourself in order to love yourself. Find out your qualities that make you different from everybody else and accept those characteristics to the fullest. When you accept and love yourself, everyone around you will automatically be attracted towards you more. It’s a fool proof plan.
Being Everything to Someone
Last week had a conversation with a friend of mine where we spoke about the dynamics of a relationship between two people. I feel compelled to write about it because in some shape or form it affects every relationship. We discussed being someone’s everything…or someone being your everything. We hear people talk about finding a partner who can share in their passions and lives, while others will state that they want some independence from their partner.
Togetherness
I believe most people will want a partner to share their lives with in the most ample sense. When two people start dating all of a sudden they are spending less time with friends and family and spending most of their free time with their new lover. This is normal. As the excitement of the new relationship makes them want to spend more and more time together as they discover who they are. It’s nice to think that your partner will share and support you in your interests, and enjoy all the same things you do… like music, movies, hobbies etc. But there are some drawbacks to that as well.
After a few months some couples look at each other and say… “you’re not the same person I met 6 months ago.” In actuality they are. You have just seen them through tinted glasses and saw in the light you wanted. Rather than who they are. In the process you lose yourself to the relationship. You lose friends, and ties. You neglect your interests and hobbies. Next thing you know you go to work and come home to sit on the couch and wait for your partner to come home and do the same. Not very exciting. Togetherness can be beneficial if you’re willing to keep your lives active and motivated to your goals and interests.