Top 7 Reasons to Get Married
When you ask single people if they plan to get married, some will say when the right time comes while others insist that they’d rather be single than to suffer the problems encountered by married couples. But of course, marriage is a part of life and getting married state is considered to be a big step towards getting fulfillment in life. Your life will be boring if you stay single forever. Well, for those who are not convinced of the importance of marriage, here are some good reasons why you should get married.
1.) You are definitely in love with each other
Love is one great reason one should get married. Marriage ties two people together which make them more committed to stay and love together forever. It can make your bond stronger. If you are sure that you are in love with each other then you should take a big and higher step up the ladder. Singles can also prove their love to their partners even without marriage but marriage makes love and commitment stronger.
2.) You can have a lifetime partner and someone to share your life with
With marriage, you can have someone to share your life with. You won’t die alone and you will have a partner that will see to it that you are always in good health. Singles are not assured that their current partner will be with them for the rest of their lives thus it is still best to be married and have someone for a lifetime.
3.) Marriage is the legal platform to starting your own family.
Marriage gives you a license to start and raise your own family legally and with God’s blessings. It’s true that singles can start their own family but it will not be as blessed as having a family as married couple.
Today’s Marriage and Relationships
There is no denying the fact that human relationships look completely different now than in the past, and that they’re constantly changing. The major changes have emerged first in partnership within marriages and, consequently, in the whole family unit. The circumstances that had a strong influence on old shape of partnership included the alterations of women’s status and situation.
Nowadays women have equal rights to men and the same opportunities as they are well-educated and no longer dependent financially on the opposite sex. Therefore, also within marriage women started to fight for their rights, that is why they are no longer willing to listen to their partners in all matters and there are more quarrels between them.
There is also an issue of changing roles: both women and men have become more resourceful. They do not have to look at the opposite sex to survive and are able to run a house on their own.
The equality in marriage is getting stronger and stronger, and no one is much dependent and obeys a second spouse. That’s the main cause of the increased amount of divorces. However, to whatever extent relationships will change, there is no likelihood that men and women will become so interested and self-indulgent that they will not need each other. Thanks to that, marriage has been and will be the most solid institution of all time.
Due to a constantly increasing number of divorces and separations more and more couples decide to live without making a legal commitment at all. Therefore, as much as the figures of divorces went up, the number of marriages fell.
How To Save Your Marriage – What Makes A Marriage Last
If your marriage is currently facing challenges, it may make you feel a little better to know what you have working for you. So below you’ll find a few things that attribute to a marriage lasted a long time. The first thing that attributes to a marriage lasting a long time is how old you were when you got married. Couples who got married when they were older, 25 or over, are less likely to get a divorce. This is due to the fact that individuals who are over the age of 25 tend to be more mature and tend to know what they want.
The second thing that makes a marriage last is if you share the same religion or belief system. Believing in something together makes for a very powerful bond. It brings you and your spouse together on a spiritual level. Education is another factor that contributes to a marriage lasting. No its not necessary to have a degree for a marriage to last, but research does show that those with some level of higher education are more likely to stay together versus someone who might be a high school drop out.
The fourth thing that plays a major role in how long your marriage will last is whether or not your parents are still together. If you grew up in a home where your mother and father were married, your chances for divorce are less likely. This is because what we learn about marriage comes from what we see our on parents do. If your parents were able to work through their problems and stay together, then chances are you will do the same.
Top 10 Things Husbands Need to Hear
10 ) “I know You can do it”
A man constantly needs affirmation. If he knows that his wife believes in him and his abilities, he too will believe in himself. This empowers him as a husband, father, and leader.
9 ) “Thank You so much for doing that”
Everyone wants to be appreciated, especially a man. They want to know that taking out the trash, or mowing the lawn is appreciated, that what they have to contribute to the marriage, and to the family is valued.
8 ) “You are so hot, You’re the man”
Don’t think your man doesn’t care about his looks just as much as you do. Even though his hairline may be receding and his waistline is expanding, it’s very important that you always compliment him. This not only boosts his ego, but his confidence in that you only have eyes for him.
7 ) “I’m so blessed to have You as a husband”
This ignites all sorts of positive feelings in a man. First off, this really enhances his self-worth and significance as an individual. Secondly, it reassures him that you are happy and content in the marriage.
6 ) “You are wise beyond Your years”
We know that this isn’t always the case. But never underestimate the power of suggestion =)
5 ) “You are right”
I know this is a hard one, but as the head of the household a man needs to know that he has his wife’s full support in his decision making (even if it is the wrong decision). Knowing that you trust and support him through every decision will make him a better and stronger leader.
A Great Marriage Takes Work!
Don’t let anyone fool you. A great marriage takes work. It takes prayer, patience, understanding, and compromise. I don’t run away from challenges and neither should you. After all anything worth having is worth fighting for and I tell you right now that although it will take some work a great marriage is certainly worth fighting for.
My husband and I both have very strong personalities. Both of us want to be right and neither of us mind voicing our opinions quite passionately. It’s interesting that of all of the differences that he and I share that we have this trait or quality in common.
I thank God that we are both Christians and that we value godly principles. If we had not implemented what the Bible says about marriage we probably would not be married today. It takes more than love to make it work. Even when we were considering divorce we still loved each other. It was just other areas like ministry, money, and other disagreements that threatened our union. Love wasn’t enough…
Fortunately we decided to pull up our bootstraps and get to work on what meant so much to both us. We wanted our marriage to work and we wanted it to be great! So we established some rules pertaining to communication, money, our in-laws etc. We started having planned “meetings” to talk about our marriage and we started praying together more often. I believe this was a key factor.
The changes didn’t happen overnight but then again our problems didn’t happen overnight either. Because of this we had to be patient and allow our new resolve to take effect. We both decided to truly work at making our marriage great.